With Me or Against Me

We live in a binary world. We worry that technology is taking over, but that isn’t my real worry. It is simply that every thought, every opinion seems to be a 1 or a 0. You’re with me or against me. You don’t agree with me? Then you must agree with my enemy. You must be my enemy. There must be something more, something more elastic, some movement of thought.

Does anyone even change their opinion anymore? Hear an argument and think, actually??? Maybe… They could be right!

We shouldn’t blame technology for this. We choose the tools, our information sources and the platforms to spread  our thoughts. We decide if instant gratification, an instant hit is what we need. We can’t fool ourselves that there is no time for more, there is, we just have to use it better. And think.

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via Daily Prompt: Superficial


It all matters. Every word, every action. Both within our nuclear families and our wider family in the world.

Habits are learned and practised, they become ingrained. How we live, behave and interact.

What is irrelevant is our frustration with our fellow man. It’s not worth the loss of energy. Unless we can make an impact and affect a change, then our thoughts are pointless.

But it’s easier said than done, to ignore your frustrations. Being present and calm within yourself, that’s the constant struggle.

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via Daily Prompt: Irrelevant

The Now

Committing, doing, achieving. Wanting isn’t enough. We all spend too much time dreaming, I certainly do. I want to change; attitudes, work, life. But how to do it? It just seems too much, too impossible.

Self-doubt. Too old, too set in my ways. Where to start? Never enough time. Excuses.

The solution, one step. The now. Not the destination, but the journey. Sounds simple, but the mind wanders. Stay focused, the present is all that matters.

Make a choice, commit to the now.

via Daily Prompt: Commit

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Beat the Competition

It’s hard being a parent, isn’t it? There are so many ways in which you can affect how your child grows and matures. Everything from your behaviour, to which activities you choose for them. It all contributes to the final product, your child.

But how do you protect them from the rest of the world? Of course, you can’t. All you can do is give them the tools to judge for themselves, what is right and what is wrong. Luckily my kids seem to be able to make these judgements already, even at only 5 and 7 years old.

My children often come home with stories from school, stories from other children. Stories about how they spend time with their families, and what they do. Or quite often, don’t do. But, recently, some of the stories have left my mouth hanging open. Of course, these stories come from the badly behaved children at school, and you are left thinking, no wonder.

I won’t quote every story, but it is the most recent one that has really made me think. My 5-year-old daughter came back from kindergarten and told us that a boy in her class had tried smoking. Yes, smoking, at 5! He must have stolen one of his parents’ cigarettes, he’d probably watched them smoking and learned how to do it. No, his father had let him try one. His father had put a filthy cigarette into his child’s mouth! Honestly I’m going to run out of exclamation marks writing this.

In the past, this was the classic tactic to stop your child smoking. Make them feel sick and they will hate it. But that was the past, and normally with children of teenage years. In this case it seems like it was just a funny thing to do, watch the child try to smoke, how amusing. My blood is boiling now, just thinking about it.

Luckily, my daughter told us this story while shaking her head. She knows this is stupid behaviour, and my son too. But I don’t want to spend my life telling them that their friends’ parents are stupid. So come on people, please grow up. You need to do it first, so then your children can.

© Neil Hayes and neilsworldofenglish

Information Overload

You can never have too much information, right? Information means education, that’s knowledge, right? But, currently it seems it is possible to have too much information. Because, after all, information does not have to be true. It is just a message, it is up to us to decide if we trust the messenger. Politicians stand up and lie, repeatedly, and go unchallenged. People share what they have heard, and the word is spread.

But, how do we know? After all, we can’t all be experts in every field. We have to think, look at where the information has come from. If you live in America, and the website you are reading is covered in patriotic memorabilia, you can be pretty sure there will be a bias to a certain point of view. Maybe you share many of those views, but you should still be aware of the bias and not just let your views be confirmed. I feel that the liberal media is much more honest, but I still have to think about what I hear and not blindly accept it. 

We all must be aware that every person has some individual bias. After all, we are all products of our environments, we all want to believe that our peers and our friends are good, honest people. And they probably are, but it doesn’t mean they are right. 

Daily Prompt: Volume

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